Written by Scott (Disability Advocate), Edited by Lori (NHU Editor)
Robert M. Hensel once said, “I choose not to place ‘DIS’, in my ability.” Think about it! If YOU refuse to put the “dis” in your ability, why would you let someone else do it for you?! Don’t let others bring you down or choose the path you travel in life based upon preconceived notions of your ability. Take charge of your life! Find positivity and venture forward!
One of the most surefire ways to find positivity is to focus on bettering yourself. Self improvement does not mean doing what others want you to do or think you should do. Rather, it is doing something YOU deem good for YOUR soul. Set some time and energy aside for you if you haven’t for a while. This doesn’t mean that you forget about others or be inconsiderate, but you really do need to think of yourself every now and then. It is easier to think of yourself as deserving of this time if you have a positive self-image.
So, how do you go about forming a positive self-image? First and foremost, you must surround yourself with good, kind people. Find others who feel the way you do, or who have similar interests. These people will be the best buffer between you and others that might bring you down. Distance yourself from these “negative nellies” and instead surround yourself with people that will build you up. The friends and family with which you surround yourself should be supportive, not destructive. And, always remember that the best relationships are reciprocal; you need to give back to those you love and to those who have helped you. It also helps to pass on a good mood to others. A kind word or smile works wonders for the soul; both for yours and for those around you!
It also helps to be an optimist. Positivity breeds positivity! Try to find the good in every situation, no matter how dire it may seem. Every bad situation presents an opportunity to learn and grow! If you make a mistake, don’t reach a goal, or fail in some fashion…don’t give up! Giving up, even for just the shortest time, could cause that big opportunity to pass you by. Remember, there is always tomorrow, and a new day brings new hope and new challenges. It is these challenges that make us strong, and help shape us into what we might become.
Of course as you follow your dreams and goals, be realistic on the path you take to get there. Don’t be your own worst enemy by biting off more than you can comfortably chew. At the same time however, you must keep on trying, no matter how bleak life may seem. You must believe, that all will eventually get better. I know this personally! I was down and out, and it seemed as though nothing could go right; before I knew it my family picked me up and encouraged me to start down the path, though it be long, towards regaining and enjoying my life.
I hope I have inspired you to get rolling down the right path towards a more fulfilling life. Remember there are others out there that want to help you and understand what you are going through. You just need to find them; sometimes they are right in front of your nose, but you just cannot see them.